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Anonymous asked:

I think marriage is declining (both in length and actual marriage), because people are becoming more and more self involved and focusing more on superficial things when looking for a partner. People also don't take it seriously b/c like y'all said divorce is so easily acceptable. People are taught to date a bunch of people and "find what you like" or settle. My parents taught me to guard my heart and have a list of criteria before I even started dating, & to never date someone I couldn't marry.

Veronica here. I myself have heard what your parents taught you from a lot of people and I don’t think that’s bad advice at all. 

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. xx

mylifeincolor101 asked:

Hi I came across your blog and I really love to see so much support for young marriage. My situation is that I am 17 and in October I will be engaged to the best man I will ever meet. What I wanted to know was if before you got married or even engaged, were you afraid? Scared that it wouldn't be what you thought or you'd just stop loving each other one day or the big one, divorce? Ultimately I'm ecstatic about getting to marry my best friend, but I want to know if these fears I have are normal?

Marriage is so scary, mainly because it’s such a big step. Not only a big step relationship wise but in our own maturity and growth as well. 

We went into marriage after much consideration, so many discussions with our husbands about expectations and realistic views. You have to make the choice to grow up and welcome someone onto your team. 

Having fear is totally normal. Good luck, we wish you the best!

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

Hi there I honestly believe your blog is pure genius to those who actually want to get married at a young age.

We’re glad you enjoy it. And we’re so happy to get so many positive reactions to this blog and the people who are a part of it, including all of you!

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

This is the first marriage blog I've seen aimed at young people that doesn't assume that only hardcore Christians get married before their 30s. Thank you so much!

You’re welcome. :) 

Life is a series of transitions and transformations. One day you realize that you want to marry this man who last year was just a friend; then you turn around and you find you are having a fight on your 7th wedding anniversary. One day you run home with the news that you are pregnant; then suddenly your baby is an adolescent, and the next day he gets married. One day you and your husband walk into a new retirement condo, just the two of you. The next day you watch him as his picks up his tiny granddaughter. One day perhaps you sit and remember all the fights you had when you were newly married and feel amazement that you are still with, and still love, this person who always drops his socks on the floor and gets stupid in arguments.

If we are honest, what we hope for is that, in all these transformations, we find a way to hold and be held by our loved ones. Each shift at each new stage tests old ways of connecting and requires that we renew our bonds. This is what makes life worthwhile and what keeps up healthy and happy as we move inexorable from milestone to milestone.

Dr. Sue Johnson, Love Sense

Friedman concluded that medical advances play a minor role in extending life span. ‘Most people who live to old age do no do so because they have beaten cancer, heart disease, depression, or diabetes,’ he says. ‘Instead, the long-lived avoid serious ailments altogether through a series of steps that rely on long-lasting, meaningful connections with others.’

In other words, you can eat special organic and gluten-free foods, gulp down multivitamins, get yourself to the gym, and meditate into a stress-free zone, but the best tonic for staying healthy and happy into old age is probably toning up your relationship.

Dr. Sue Johnson, Love Sense
Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

Hi I really need help. I know you're all married but I don't believe in marriage at all. About 95% of my office is married (90% office is older than me) & the majority of my friends are married & the ones that aren't are in a relationship. My parents probe me to see what I'm doing since my friends are pairing off. Turns out I'm still seeing them often enough & when I don't I can do my own thing. How do I get everyone to leave me alone about dating/getting a girlfriend!marriage/having children???

Talk show hosts have discussed this a lot lately, couples are looked down upon for simply not wanting marriage or children. You should never feel like your life has to be navigated for you or that you need these things to achieve happiness. It’s a touchy subject. You could go the way of explaining yourself every time or ignoring it but ultimately there will always be people who are curious and who don’t understand. It’s the same with anything out of what our society deems “normal”. Your decision is your own and my suggestion is just to make that known to the people around you. 

If they can’t accept that, I’m sorry but you should never feel the need to explain yourself further. It is, after all, your life. Good luck xx

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