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For the past few days I’ve been sick with a viral infection and it’s really sucked. My husband made it all a little easier. I’ll be honest, my husband is a mess when it comes to illness. He’s a germaphobe and he feels so lost. I remember the first time I ever got sick after we moved in together, I immediately begged him to take me to my moms and he felt so terrible that he couldn’t figure out how to take care of me. So now, almost 5 years later, he has gotten a lot better at handling germs, especially with a wife who is sick too often. He kept checking on me, calling from work, running home on his breaks with fluids and medicine and food. He encouraged me to stay home from work and school to get my rest and he stayed home with me on his day off and watched everything on Netflix. He picked up the slack on my end while I was in bed for three days because he’s amazing. 

I was thinking about how much we’ve both grown and how much we need each other as a team, thanks to these passed three days, I’ve had plenty of time to reflect. If we’ve learned anything in our time as a married couple it’s that we are meant to be a team, that no matter what we’ll have each other’s backs. It feels good knowing you’ll always have your spouse there to back you up or pick up the slack or just be there. I would have to admit that I forgot to sit back and notice how much he was doing for me until I had gotten sick. I have to show him I appreciate him some way. 

Have you shown your SO how much you appreciate them lately? 

kawaimimi asked:

Hey, I'm really glad that I found your blog^^ I'm 23 and engaged. It was arranged by our parents, but we fell in love with each other. Still all my friends worry and think that arranged marriages don't have a good end. What's your opinion about that?

Thank you! I think what’s most important is how you feel. My opinion is that marriage should be defined by the couple involved, not me or your friends, because, after all, it is your life and your relationship. Arranged or not, all successful marriages require time and effort. I wish you and your fiancé lots of happiness ahead.

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

Anyone who gets married is out of their minds.

Well, I’m glad for that because it’s still the best decision I’ve made in my life. The secret is that our joy doesn’t come from the approval of others.

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

I love this blog! I just got married today :P I'm 18 and my husband is 20. Never in my life has anything felt so right and I'm so glad that there are other people out there who understand! <3

Thank you! Congratulations on your marriage, we wish you lots of continued happiness.

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

I'll be 20 in a couple of months, and my husband will be 19 for longer than that. We have been married for a little over a year, and even here in a small town we're looked down on and criticized for it. We didn't get married because I wound up pregnant, and most people can't wrap their heads around that. I can't count how many times I've been told I'm too young and I have no idea what I'm doing, even by my own family. It's just nice to see a blog like this, where I don't feel so strange. :)

Welcome to the family! :) that is always weird for people, that whole not getting married young because of a baby. Well so happy you enjoy our blog!

Marriage

(mar-ij) Noun. 

(broadly) any of the diverse forms of interpersonal union established in various parts of the world to form a familial bond that is recognized legally, religiously, or socially, granting the participating partners mutual conjugal rights and responsibilities.

This is how dictionary.com defines marriage. Sure, okay. But I hate how condensed it is. So many things make a marriage a marriage. You can give it really any definition based on what it is to you. But why is it that today we can see all that comes with the decision and the process of marrying and yet, it’s still so simple to damage our marriage or our spouse? Watching from afar may be why I question the simplicity of divorce, I’ve of course never gone through one myself but why is that such an easy answer for most people? Sometimes, yes it’s more than justified but I’m thinking more along the lines of the easy out. Is it true marriage just isn’t what it used to be? Or maybe people just don’t know what marriage is supposed to be. 

A dear friend of mine has been trying to put the pieces of her marriage back together for well over a year, she’s done it all. A couple of nights ago I saw a book in her bag, Have I Done All I Can To Save My Marriage? I hope that you view your marriage as worth fighting for, I know she does. I know I will always fight for my marriage. Knowing what it is you want from your spouse, from your commitment to each other is a building block for how to bring that to life for one another. Whatever you do, don’t begin to withdraw from your significant other, communication can save us from so many disasters. 

talk, talk, talk it out. 

For those of you who feel comfortable doing so (and you may do it anonymously), feel free to share your story in our submissions section. It’s lovely to hear stories of saved marriages, stories that end happily and our friends here love uplifting, encouraging stories. Be sure to specify whether or not we would be allowed to share your story too. This is a little different from things we usually do here, but I’d personally love to hear a positive turn around story for future references. Maybe you can help my friend (mentioned above) out. 

Happy Thursday! xoxo

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Anonymous asked:

I think marriage is declining (both in length and actual marriage), because people are becoming more and more self involved and focusing more on superficial things when looking for a partner. People also don't take it seriously b/c like y'all said divorce is so easily acceptable. People are taught to date a bunch of people and "find what you like" or settle. My parents taught me to guard my heart and have a list of criteria before I even started dating, & to never date someone I couldn't marry.

Veronica here. I myself have heard what your parents taught you from a lot of people and I don’t think that’s bad advice at all. 

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. xx

mylifeincolor101 asked:

Hi I came across your blog and I really love to see so much support for young marriage. My situation is that I am 17 and in October I will be engaged to the best man I will ever meet. What I wanted to know was if before you got married or even engaged, were you afraid? Scared that it wouldn't be what you thought or you'd just stop loving each other one day or the big one, divorce? Ultimately I'm ecstatic about getting to marry my best friend, but I want to know if these fears I have are normal?

Marriage is so scary, mainly because it’s such a big step. Not only a big step relationship wise but in our own maturity and growth as well. 

We went into marriage after much consideration, so many discussions with our husbands about expectations and realistic views. You have to make the choice to grow up and welcome someone onto your team. 

Having fear is totally normal. Good luck, we wish you the best!

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

Hi there I honestly believe your blog is pure genius to those who actually want to get married at a young age.

We’re glad you enjoy it. And we’re so happy to get so many positive reactions to this blog and the people who are a part of it, including all of you!

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