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Last week, on Valentine’s Day, I sent messages to a few of my favorite married couples that are not on tumblr. I asked them what their advice would be to a newly married person. Here are some responses I got:
Husband, married 28 years: “Communicate.”
Wife, married 10 years: “Love is not optional. It is unconditional.”
Husband, married 10 years: ”Never go to sleep angry or with things unresolved, broken relationships are filled with prideful silence.”
Husband, married 3 years: “Communicate the best you can. Keep channels open.”
I think it’s wise to consider advice and opinions from other married couples. It’s up to you whether you take it or leave it. Not all advice will work for you, but at least you can take several different pieces of advice and along with your own experience, weave together the best marriage that works for you and your spouse.
Have a great week everyone!
1. We talk about everything, honestly. The ups, the downs, the in-betweens…it all gets shared. We spend time after he gets home to…
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1. We have things.
You know, things, like little things that are only between the two of you. We have inside jokes and secrets and things we keep between us, things that make us us. We have routines and we do special little something for one another that the…
Thanks to Ashley, I too posted this on my personal blog and am now sharing it with our wife pals.
holy shit. this is perfect.
1. we always go to bed at the same time - it just feels right to fall asleep with your partner next to you. sometimes we have great, in-depth conversations as we get ready to fall asleep, sometimes there are just snippets of conversations, but it’s nice to drift off together. it’s great to end…
I posted this on my personal blog and then realized it would go well here too! This is what works…for us!
Has anyone gone out and bought some chocolate on sale?! Suddenly flowers are cheaper, candy is on sale, and over-sized teddy bears everywhere are out of stock. What’s the big deal about this special day?
Many of us crave romance. We live for it! We watch tv shows and movies oozing with romance. We read books that play up the moves that guys put on women. While romance is fun and keeps ladies (and guys!) on their toes, it doesn’t have to end just because February 14 is over.
What about February 15? What about August 21? My point is that any day can be an “all about love” day. Yesterday I was on social media perusing pictures and reading all the sweet lovey dovey things going on in the lives of others and I stumbled on a few ladies who were complaining about the amount of money their significant others spent…Is that what Valentine’s Day has come to? Money and material items? That doesn’t last. But the resentment and hurt feelings can…
We shouldn’t let this day dictate when we can be romantic. Adding on to Brittany’s post yesterday, we should be focusing on our marriage every day. We don’t have to let the romance die just because the day is over. Make a point to shower your love on your husband every day. Tell him how much you appreciate him every day that ends with -y. Write him a love note on the mirror so he can see it after a hot shower. Kiss him out of the blue and hug him until the sun goes down. The more you put into a relationship, the more you will get out of it. That’s my motto anyways.
For this Valentine’s Day, the wives have asked another fellow wife whom we all follow and admire to do a guest post for us. Brittany is a wife to Wyatt and mother to a beautiful girl, Peyton. She has a lot of great ideas on marriage and offers a fresh, honest perspective. Check out her guest post today and go on over to check out more of brittanynwilliams! Thanks Brittany!
It seems so many women put an unhealthy emphasis on valentine’s day and set themselves up for disappointment. And in the world of social media, it seems you’re bombarded with things “other people’s husbands” are doing and it’s hard not to get caught up in comparisons but, remember, when you do this you’re ignoring your husbands efforts or maybe the small gestures that he’s put a lot of thought into.
Your marriage needs constant care and it should be a joint effort, every day.. not just once a year. Instead of getting mad, that your husband didn’t buy you something extravagant or put as much thought into your day, as you would have liked, let go of your expectations and think of some ways that you can celebrate that work for you both and make you both feel loved. Don’t make it about what he can do for you but what you both can do for your marriage.
I’m thankful for the realization that February 14 will always pale in comparison to the amazing life we’re making together.. every single day.